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4 Quick Fixes to Interrupt an Emotional Spiral
When you’ve been triggered and your emotion passengers are trying to hijack your mind-body vehicle, it can feel like your loosing control! You get pulled into a full cascade of psycho-physiological reactivity. Breathing gets shallow, muscles tense, and we can’t think...
Rejection Sensitivity: Do We Really Get What We Put Out?
“You get what you put out there!” We often hear this annoying truism. But is it really true? And if so, what can we do to prevent getting more of what we don't want? The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy: Is It Real? Do others really reflect back our own social signals? Owning...
Is The Digital Age Fueling Toxic Reassurance Seeking?
We all need a little reassurance sometimes. Someone to tell us we’re on track, doing great, or just confirm that we don’t have food in our teeth! But could this normal behavior be becoming more problematic in the digital age? Has Internet, smartphone, and social media...
Use Your Words: The Power of “Affect Labeling” for Emotional Self-Care.
What if you could feel less angry, sad, or anxious with just one word? How great would that be?! Most of the time, instead of doing what works, we just keep doing what we’ve always done, hoping it will work (like it used to). So where does our...
Beyond Labels: Getting Past Stigma With How We Talk About Mental Health.
If you’ve struggled with a diagnosis for some period of time, you know, the label may give everybody a sense of reassurance, but does very little to effectively reduce your suffering! You are far more complex than a label.
Is FOTU Fueling Millennial Anxiety (and Depression)?
Feelings of uncertainty and doubt come part and parcel with building a life you love. Yet it’s so easy to get hijacked by the anxiety and worry, when we don’t know for sure.
We can get paralyzed by the F.O.T.U. Fear Of The Unknown!
Body Positivity in a Sea of Skinny
Body Positivity in a Sea of Skinny Looking out from the eyes of a young girl, everyone was thin and beautiful. It was a ‘sea of skinny,’ for young Jodi Guber Brufsky growing up in the limelight of her powerful father. A uniquely challenging environment for a little...
Do Your Outsides Match Your Insides? Ask Your Wise Mind.
We all have private internal experiences (emotions, thoughts, bodily sensations, and impulses), which we keep to ourselves, only sharing to a certain few. Having appropriate boundaries like this is healthy and necessary for effectively negotiating the world. But some...
Psychological Flexibility: The Super-Skill for Mastering Stressful Periods of Change
I hear the words of Bob Dylan floating through my mind these days….. This past week client after client has plopped themselves on my couch, called for skills coaching, or submitted home practice related to the vast changes our world is observing. “What now?”...
So You Think You’re Self Aware? A Mindfulness Tool. . If You DARE!
Just about anyone you ask thinks they’re super self aware. Yet we all know so many people we judge to be unaware, distracted, even ‘clueless’ to their own stuff. So, what’s going on here?
VALIDATION: The Relational Skill that Softens Defenses.
Ever found yourself caught in a difficult dialogue with someone (maybe even with yourself), where emotions were escalating, and reasoning not helping? It can feel like a futile battle as you try everything to stomp out the flickering flames of emotion before a brush...
Coping Ahead For the Holidays: 3 Skills Videos
The holidays are a massive breeding ground for triggers and autopilot reactivity! AND - also an opportunity to practice your skills! Are you ready? Are you skilled up to get through drama free this year? Well, I've got ya covered with some simple practices for...