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Is FOTU Fueling Millennial Anxiety (and Depression)?
Feelings of uncertainty and doubt come part and parcel with building a life you love. Yet it’s so easy to get hijacked by the anxiety and worry, when we don’t know for sure.
We can get paralyzed by the F.O.T.U. Fear Of The Unknown!
Body Positivity in a Sea of Skinny
Body Positivity in a Sea of Skinny Looking out from the eyes of a young girl, everyone was thin and beautiful. It was a ‘sea of skinny,’ for young Jodi Guber Brufsky growing up in the limelight of her powerful father. A uniquely challenging environment for a little...
Do Your Outsides Match Your Insides? Ask Your Wise Mind.
We all have private internal experiences (emotions, thoughts, bodily sensations, and impulses), which we keep to ourselves, only sharing to a certain few. Having appropriate boundaries like this is healthy and necessary for effectively negotiating the world. But some...
Psychological Flexibility: The Super-Skill for Mastering Stressful Periods of Change
I have the words of Bob Dylan floating through my mind these days….. This past week client after client has plopped themselves on my couch, called for skills coaching, or submitted home practice related to the vast changes our world is observing. “What now?” “I’m...
So You Think You’re Self Aware? A Mindfulness Tool. . If You DARE!
Just about anyone you ask thinks they’re super self aware. Yet we all know so many people we judge to be unaware, distracted, even ‘clueless’ to their own stuff. So, what’s going on here? Are we all in denial? We all have gaps in self-awareness because seeing our...
VALIDATION: The Relational Skill that Softens Defenses.
Ever found yourself caught in a difficult dialogue with someone (maybe even with yourself), where emotions were escalating, and reasoning not helping? It can feel like a futile battle as you try everything to stomp out the flickering flames of emotion before a brush...
Coping Ahead For the Holidays: 3 Skills Videos
The holidays are a massive breeding ground for triggers and autopilot reactivity! AND - also an opportunity to practice your skills! Are you ready? Are you skilled up to get through drama free this year? Well, I've got ya covered with some simple practices for...
Coming Together: Bringing Mindfulness to Differing Perspectives
A lot of people are feeling a lot of emotions right now, ranging from hopeful to hopeless; from satisfied to enraged. When we have disagreements, both sides become convinced that ‘if only the other side understood’ their side of things, all could be well. The result?...
Healing Disappointment: Stronger Together
In a nation where half of us are filled with shock and sadness, skillfulness takes on a much different tone. On a normal day, the ultimate aim would be to move towards feeling better, or even happiness. But today is NOT a normal day. Today is a day of monumental...
Taking Role Call: A Self-Compassion and Validation Practice
“Who would wanna look at their suffering?! I mean, why would I want do that?” A dear client of mine asked repeatedly the other day after reading the Are you a Self Esteem Junkie blog. This is such an important question because it is the most natural thing in the...
Burnt Out? How to Beat a Case of the ”F**k Its”
We’ve all been there! It can come on fast - or boil up from a slow brew. There are things to do - goals to be pursued - tasks to be managed. But every ounce of you wants to avoid, procrastinate, and plain old throw in the towel! Your mind starts offering you one...
Are You A Self Esteem Junkie? The Unexpected Dark Side
Of course we all want to feel good about ourselves! Striving for success, accomplishing goals, feeling appreciated are all a part of a healthy life well lived. But is there a point at which the pursuit of subjective self worth can trip us up? Like anything in excess,...