Visualizing Success

Visualizing the Success we seek can be inspiring or intimidating. This practice will help you identify what it is you truly want your life to look like, identify any potential barriers, and get you moving through the quarter-life crisis!


  1. Valerie

    Dear Dr. Fielding!
    First of all, your book is great! It’s really useful and deep therapy. I think not every psychologist can help by offline sessions as much as you do.
    Now I am on third part of book but I still have a problem with my values… I mean social activities and public life. I feel it’s important for me. However, firstly I defined it like “spreading values on society and helping people”. Then I understood it’s not about what I really feel, so I defined it like “be known for a good reputation and help people”. Finally, when I rewrote it on “Goals and commitments” I felt it was not exactly what I mean under “social activities” again. Now I am going to start searching third time. Could you help me where can I make a mistake?

    • Dr. Lara

      Hi Vicki! You are doing a fantastic job getting through the book! Values work can be super confusing. I think you are right on track though. While you may not be able to directly make others ‘know you for good reputation” you can maintain your committed actions to behaviors consistent with helping people. As a people helper myself, I know. It can get tricky. As best you can, stay focused on the kind of person you want to be, regardless of other’s opinions. That is hard of course. Sometimes, being a helper is exhausting. So make sure you also build your skills from Chapter 11, so you can draw boundaries with others. For example, you could ask others to acknowledge you for your help.
      I’m sorry for my very late delay. Please do reach out again if I may clarify further! Lara


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