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Are You A Self Esteem Junkie? The Unexpected Dark Side

Of course we all want to feel good about ourselves!  Striving for success, accomplishing goals, feeling appreciated are all a part of a healthy life well lived. But is there a point at which the pursuit of subjective self worth can trip us up? Like anything in excess,...

Your ETA to Happiness: What You Need to Know

We all want to be happy…. Or at least have more happiness than sadness, anxiety, or anger in our lives. But we don't know how the basic system of our mind-body machines functions, to either promote or hinder our happiness. A simple understanding of this system can get...

#TalkToMe Tati: A Survivor’s Wisdom on Resilience

The tension had been brewing to a boiling point the day the Nazis came to collect young Elizabeth and her older sister. Dressed and packed with their best things, the trip began almost as an adventurous escape from the abusive constraints of their dictator father....

3 Social Comparison Biases that Torpedo Motivation

  You know you do it! Most of us do – some more, some less. In the dark of night or light of day, at your desk, or procrastinating before the next task. .... Trolling social media, watching your friends’ successes, casting judgment about whatever thing they're posting...

Getting Better at Feeling to Feel Better (for the Long-Term)

  Last week Jane came into my office feeling paralyzed and confused. “When my anxiety starts up I try to use my skills to validate my emotions. But then my mind starts finding all the real things I have to feel anxious about!  So how do I know when to listen to my...

For Valentines Day: An Open Letter to Your Heart

  Dear Hearts: To and from You - we are grateful. It is You that give us the gratitude we feel . . . For the pull of love's calling For the giddy enthusiasm of a new crush For the awe of our true loves beauty It is You that inspires us To pursue more of these...

Are you an Over-Offerer? 3 Steps to Better Boundaries

How does this keep happening!? You knew you didn’t want to go to that event… help out with that thing… didn’t have time to get across town in time for that meeting! But you said you would go…do it… be there anyway. Why do we say “Yes” when we really need to say “No”?...

Letting Go of the Argument in your Head

  We all know that feeling. Someone said something, (maybe it was you), which was followed by an unpleasant outcome. Maybe an awkward silence, a ridiculing laughter, a disparaging comment. Or maybe the outcome was simply not at all what you had hoped for. Then its...

Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work: The Four Forces

You know that moment when the thought crosses your mind, or someone asks you, “Do you have any New Year’s resolutions?” Part of you has a momentary thought about the things you would like to change this year. But your mind, and your answer quickly go to “Resolutions...

A Gift to Yourself

What do you need? Now that the holiday shopping is (mostly) finished, and we look to the New Year, perhaps it is a time when you may be selfish. . . in the best sense of the word! Building your self-awareness is the best gift you can give yourself, and ultimately to...

Pernicious Perfectionism: 3 Pervasive Patterns

If you're a perfectionist, you know all too well how this way of being can trap you. You set high expectations for yourself, which can lead to success, and boost your self-esteem. But with those lofty goals can come a reciprocal mountain of self-criticism and...

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